Wisdom 101

James 3:17 NKJV   “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy.”



Doesn’t sound much like the wisdom we practice, does it? When we say ‘Shine your eye!’ or ‘I no fit carry last,’ or ‘No dulling,’ etc etc, are we really thinking, ‘I must be willing to yield, merciful & yet gentle in all my dealings?’ Well, maybe you are, but those ‘exhortations’ usually fire up my church mind, to rationalise, politicise and sensationalise. I mean, it’s everyman for himself,  and God for us all…but is that God’s kinda wisdom?  

When we say, ‘Be wise,’ we usually mean, ‘prepare to take advantage, use or be used, dominate or be dominated, and whatever else a thousand and one motivational books have convinced us is the way to the top.  
Now you’ll say, but Proverbs says, ‘Be gentle as a dove and wise as a serpent,’ and that begs the question, ‘How wise is a serpent? What are the parameters for gauging its wisdom? If you can’t answer these questions, then James 3:17 has shown the path to follow.  

Shall we evaluate our utterances,  actions, decisions & relationships in the light of this verse? Is it pure, peacable, gentle, merciful,  willing to yield, impartial & bereft of hypocrisy?  

Reminds me of Philippians 4:8 NKJV   “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are  noble, whatever things are  just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are  lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there  is any virtue and if there  is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.”  


It is out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks right?

Here’s praying we enjoy a wisdom filled week!
…And by this time next week, the Nigerian election brouhaha should be abating; we will enjoy a peaceful electoral process! Rooting for Prof Remi Sonaiya in case you were wondering.  

Uncensored: #NaturalHairTip More length, more stress, but I overcome ie I jump and pass!

10 Signs You Are a Mom… #HappyMothersDay

You know you are in ‘Momville’ when…


1. You have ‘me’ time all alone…in the loo.

2. Your nipples are cracked and sore, but you bravely breastfeed.

3. You can hear your child squirm…from behind five closed doors.

4. You are a fix-it, get-it-moving machine.

5. You combine breastfeeding with getting homework done and making dinner.

6. You get excited about free shipping from Carters, and The Childrens Place.

7. You have three pairs of shoes & your daughter has eight, & counting…

8. You sleep deeply but lightly and awake quickly but slowly.

9. You have wiped down a fever, cleaned up vomit and endured a splash of poo.

10. You pray, sacrifice, give, bend over, abase, abound…to ensure your babies are healthy, happy & thriving.  

#HappyMothersDay to the World’s Greatest Beings!


Grandma of Life!

Uncensored: Typed this during my me time in the loo…can hear the Boo going ballistic. Poo stinks, but will stay in another 20 minutes!

The Mean Street Called Social Media

 A wise woman once said, “If you dislike someone, don’t follow them on social media…” and I verily agree.  
Why else would you troll over the pictures, tweets and joys of someone you dislike except to further feed your spite? Perhaps this is the root cause of the ravaging disease I have chosen to call social-media-rage.  


Sometimes,  I believe its the anonymity, the invincibility or the impersonal feel of social media that accounts for the depth of vitriol we cast on each other in the name of ‘having an opinion.’ You can’t disagree with someone these days on social media without going through the wringer…what exactly are we all trying to prove?   Imagine you were having that same convo with someone face-to-face…would you so easily fling abusive words? Or so easily get riled up?  

Pre-election Nigeria has been an eye-opener, the wolves have indeed come out to play. No decorum, courtesy or respect is necessary when you are valiantly defending GMB’s certificate’lessness’ or GEJ’s cluelesness. Friendship, gender and age are trivialities to be dispensed with. You must agree with me or… “Your father! ” This is freedom of speech & expression gone sour!  

If I had only social media to go by, I might conclude that the concept of humanity must be investigated. How do people spew such hate and cruelty with their words and cry when a suicide bomber detonates a bomb? Hate and cruelty is the meat of those people, same as you!  

On instagram after the AMVCA’s, checking out what the stars wore, and there’s this girl -urgalsugar- who is writing a derogatory comment on every picture she sees. She goes as far as to say, that ‘fat people should not be allowed to attend the AMVCA’s’ under a picture of OAP Miss Wana Wana. Of course, I had to see what she looked like, and bam! She had a picture of her bare backside on display, and was furiously insulting anyone who did not believe that a slim girl like her could have such a …( LOL). Needless to say, I weak! The capital L word came to mind, but I moved on. These insta streets are mean!  


Then the comments on Blogs like Linda Ikeji…OMG! Nothing is sacred there. Mother, father, ethnicity,  religion…they will slice, dice and serve you up for dinner! The topic or thrust of the post is disregarded by the 5th comment as the warfront is declared open.  
Twitter…hmmm. People have too much stamina there, they can go on for dayyyyssss! President, Celeb, Elder or younger statesman…on Twitter,  everybody be mate! Not for the faint of heart!  

Facebook… I daresay a lot of relationships are a little strained already. Seriously though, when you post a Facebook update, and then go on to say, ‘Its my timeline,’ aren’t you being a little ridiculous? The whole reason you put it on Facebook and not in your diary or even blog is because you wanted your 700-and -something acquaintances to see it and deliberate on it. Even more ridiculous is when you expect everyone to agree with you. That however gives no one the right to be derogatory.  

I mean, when did we forget how to ignore stuff? Do you pick a fight with every person that looks at you wrongly in the office or on the street?   Shoutout to those who try to keep it positive and uplifting, who know how to fight fair, and how to lose without being sore.  

As you stroll through social media this week, kindly commit to being sociable, forgiving, even tolerant. The hate starts from somewhere, please don’t let it start with you!  

Uncensored:Told my almost 3-year old I would give her a spanking for which she would have no reference point! LOL! A tired, bothered Mom speaks a lot of grammar and should not be trifled with!

New Baby, New Book, New Look!

Its March!
It’s also the official (LOL) unveiling of my new blog: jennyuncensored.

It’s also been 3 months since I was delivered of (an evil spirit? ) No! LOL. That phrase just sounds wrong! I birthed a bouncing bomboy 3 months ago to the Glory of God! Pictures below. He’s thriving& growing in leaps and bounds. I had a short (by my standards) labour, & a lightening quick delivery. So quick, I didn’t make it to the delivery room. Now your ear is itching to hear more!




Hebrew woman things!


La Bomboy... Children are a Gift from the Lord...

Finally,  I just published a collection of short stories (you know how I like them) on Okadabooks.com. The Curious Case of the Small Pikin & Other Stories.  URL is http://okadabooks.com/book/about/8562. It sells for N200 ONLY, so sharply download the app and make your purchase. Thank you in advance.

It seems my ‘omugwo’ days have slowly wound up or down, but the good news is…I have added some weight! Yassssssss! I don’t even care about my tummy bulge…just please Lord, let me keep this weight & justify my mother’s hardwork!



P.S: I love you!

Its Jenny…Uncensored!!!

Hello! Guess who’s back?

Decided it was time to move on from blogging at jennienkem.blogspot.com to jennyuncensored.wordpress.com. This Blog is still a work-in-progress but I trust that all the glitches with commenting and following etc we experienced with Blogger will be gone with the wind on WordPress.

Happy new year and a happy new month! More to come!

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